′′Let
go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest
thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most
important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don't
want change.
Stop
showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know
your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those
around you, but it's a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and
physical health.
When
you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not
everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn't mean
you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the
people who aren't ready to accompany you.
If
you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give
your time to, you don't do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your
energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and
not everyone is for you.
That's what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.
The
more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is
unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility
of this connection to someone else.
There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.
The
more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a
background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you
stay away from the community you want.
Maybe
if you stop showing up, you won't be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying,
the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will
stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it
means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave
to keep it. This is not love, it's attachment. It's wanting to give a
chance to those who don't deserve it. You deserve so much, there are
people who should not be in your life.
The
most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and
both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define
your existence.
When
you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when
you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that
don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, your energy is stolen.
You
will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for
yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more
fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only
′′compatible′′ people are allowed.
You
are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for
convincing them to improve. It's not your work to exist for people and
give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will
be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the
favours you have granted. It's your only obligation to realize that you
are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.
Decide
that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love
with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much
everything begins to change. Don't waste time with people who are not
worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the
protection you deserve.
