This is an interesting read and reminds me of why I am so drawn to men. It is a book that is an eye opener especially for younger women and possibly a good one for men to read as well ; although maybe not. After reading this, men may decide to bat for the other side.
"There is a pernicious consequence to the 'kinder gentler' myth. Girls and women
internalize the idea that being aggressive is only acceptable for men..we express our aggression indirectly through social sabotage,gossip,or vague double entendres.Indirect aggression is slippery..it is disguised beneath a veneer of politeness or gentleness. If confronted the aggressor has an accessible backdoor
' I didn't mean it the way it sounded'."
" Niceness of course can serve a person well..you don't alienate people, since being nice is really about seeking the approval of others."
"The healthier one is,psychologically speaking,the less one needs to compete."
Women and Resentment
According to Nietzsch,resentment occurs when one lacks some value, yearns to be the person who possesses it and then seeks to undermine that person.It is part of a 'slave morality' of the weak, who don't like themselves and attempt to bring down the strong.
In the marshy soil of self contempt
Every poisonous plant will grow
Yet all of it so paltry
so stealthy, so dishonest, so sickly-sweet
-GO Nietzsch!
PS
I trust this post will not adversely affect my already diminished blog popularity (she added breathlessly,wiping a Brenda Starr tear from her eye, tossing her peroxided locks nonchalantly over her shoulder, with a smile as wide as the Nile.)
Why thinkest thou thy popularity diminisheth? That one doeth not comment does not imply one readeth not!
ReplyDeleteAnd BTW, how the Pomme pronounceth "book" depends on where he cometh from. Or even she cometh from. For instance, I am a "bukker", but only because I have worked hard all my life to eliminate the "booker" in me.
"Bookers" are confined to the Ultima Thule of the UK, known as Lancashire.
There is also a "southern" pronunciation almost unrenderable without phontic script, wherein the vowel sound is a sort of strangled "ue" sound. The northern larynx simply cannot do it.
All good wishes.
Well I am presuming from your comment that being a 'booker' is not a desirable thing.You are not confusing this with a 'hooker' I hope. The 'bukker' thing has only been in vogue for upper middle class Londoners for the past 25 years.It's halfway between 'buuk' and 'book'.The Queen says 'book'.She has an exceptionally good larynx , I believe.
ReplyDeleteRall . . this is how peculiar English local accents are. Lancashire is full of "Bookers" the "oo" sounding exactly like in "Boo -ing" a bad performance. But those same "bookers", who might also be "lookers", would never rhyme "hookers" with these words. They would (phonetically) be "hukkers"
ReplyDeleteOur North East accents (Newcastle, Southsheilds, Durham) - though very easy on the ear - can lead to serious misunderstandings, as in the following anecdote.
Doctor (in BBC English, to patient recovering from broken leg) "Fine. Fine. We'll soon have you walking again!"
Patient (outraged, in rich North East English) "Walk! Walk! A cannae even wark yet."
I know you don't understand, Rall dear. So I'll try. When the Doc said "walk" the patient heard him say "work". So he remonstrated that he wasn't yet fit for "work" yet, because he couldn't "wark", which is how "walk" is pronounced in the NE. See! Schimples, really!
Best regards.
A cannae wark oot why ya tink A'm so schimple
ReplyDeleteFootsie, ya silly booga x!
I cannae walk
ReplyDeletebecause I cannae wark
A cannae see because A dorn't have any spartacles
and no, A dorn't mean me tarsticles
A cannae see them either!
So nice to see you and Doc having such an animated chat! I remember an Australian colleague relating a tale about pronunciation concerning the Aussie and South African accents. "You" say 'paark mai caar' and they say 'pork moi cor'. She found it hilarious. It all adds to the rich tapestry!
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